I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what differentiates each of us from one another. We all are born on this planet with the same inherit abilities. When I say abilities, don’t think I mean that I can go and jump as high as a guy who is 6′ 5″. That’s not where I am going with this. What I mean is that all (well mostly all) of us are born with a mind, two ears, eyes, hands, feet, legs… Ya know, the usual stuff. But what is it that makes us all so different from one another. Why is it that I may think completely different about a situation that seemed to happen the same way between a friend and me?

Is it where we live that determines how we are going to view things or is it our family, or a combination of both? I’d like to think that our immediate family, especially our parents are what creates the paradigms in our minds that we then reflect upon the physical world as our reality. We have our own lenses that we decipher the world around us with. We all grow up learning from our elders and that is then embedded so deeply within ourselves that we see no other way of looking at life through someone else’s lens.

When we try and view life through someone else’s lens, it’s almost like we think it’s absolutely absurd to look at it that way. We just can’t understand how they could view the same thing that you saw in whatever way they saw it.

So my idea here is to always try and take a step back. Take a step back and try and understand the other person’s upbringing and how their mentality has been shaped and why it may be affecting you in one way or another. I have been trying to do this a lot lately, so I can relate with others more and more.

Ever since I was 16 or so, I have had a hard time doing this. I am stubborn and I think my way is the right way and that’s that. However, I came across a lot of growing pains when I decided to shift my life in a way that I thought was positive. A lot of my friends would talk behind my back about my choices and say things like “look at her, she thinks she’s just too good for us.” I could never understand that. I thought I was just being me and I was trying to make my life better. I couldn’t understand why so much negativity could come from something that I thought was so positive. I never could understand why they couldn’t relate to me or why I couldn’t talk about positive things around them. This was very hard for me to swallow. I felt as though I was loosing friends that I thought were going to be life long friends.

I know that I cannot change the way people think about me, nor can I make others like me. There will always be people who won’t like me. AND that’s OKAY. I am okay with that. It has taken me a while to to get to this, but I think that it comes from really being ok with yourself. I have to say, I have finally gotten there.

All I can say, to all my friends out there who view me in a negative way, just know that I am trying to do something good for myself. I am growing and I want to help people and make a difference in this world. What I am doing is not because of you, it’s because of me. I care for each and everyone one of you in your own unique way.

Let’s all try and take a step back and look at each other’s point of view and then try and relate with one another. There is no reason why we can’t all support one another without placing negativity around something that is meant to be positive.

Because after all, if you’re sitting there being upset about someone else’s success or what they are doing in their lives, where does that leave you? That leaves you not moving forward or doing anything good for yourself. You’re on your own beautiful path, as am I. Let’s stop comparing each other and love one another for who we are and grow together.

In the end, the mind that was happiest all along and tried not to judge, will be the one who truly wins. Not the one who made the most money, or had the most friends. It’s the one who was happy and touched others lives and made a difference.

Cheers to Health, Wealth and Abundance friends 🙂