In this life, we have so many decisions to make. One single choice can depict how our lives will ultimately play out. We will never know the future so we try to make the best choice in the moment based off of wherever our paradigm is at the moment. But what if we choose not to think that one decision can alter our existence? This may be weird but hear me out.

The past few months have been the hardest in my life so far. I’m a mere 27 years old and I have had to make some tough decisions about what I want in my life and what I don’t want in my life. They’ve been so hard that I’ve spent entire days curled up in a ball not wanting to move in fear of what the future may hold. I’ve been so nervous that I’ve lost weight and if you know me, you know that I don’t need to lose weight. I’ve though that based off of that one decision that I made, that it is going to define me forever. That it has inherently depicted how my life is going to play out. That because I made that decision, that I have no choice on what MY future is going to be like. That it’s somehow already defined that I have to go down a certain path.

And you know what, that’s complete bull crap. One decision does not define me. Hell, 50 decisions won’t define me. You know why? Because I have the power to determine my future. Even if I make one stupid decision or one decision that I deem to be so big that it defines me, I can still change my path. I determine my path. And so do you.

I feel like when we’re in low places in our lives that we feel the next decision we make can define if we fall further into the troughs or if we can envision foot holes leading to the top of the hole and out into freedom and greatness. I choose the ladder, ya know why – because why not? Why let ourselves think that because we made one decision that seemed so detrimental at the moment get us down like that. I say, screw that. Decisions don’t define us.

Our thoughts do. How we depict the results from those decisions is what defines us. Whatever the decision may be, big or small it’s how we respond to the consequences. That’s why, when people go through really tough times that beautiful things happen. They think differently, they view life differently. They surpass all odds and make something better for themselves.

If you’re going through a hard time like I am, know that the decision you made doesn’t define how your life will play out. The way you view your life and how it will end up is what defines you. Whatever obstacles you face, you will overcome. Believe that you are stronger and believe that the goals you have can come true. They WILL come true. Have faith in yourself. One dumb mistake can always be overcome.

Live the life of your dreams. I already do in my mind and each day, I see the little steps coming into focus through the fog and into a reality. It can for you too. Trust me.